Let the Decorating Begin…

It's Black Friday weekend. That means it's officially Christmas.   It's time to deck the halls with boughs of holly and all that other fa-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la. We just have one slight decorating dilemma... For the last few years, Doug's niece, Teresa, a professional decorator, has decorated our house for Christmas. And, we have absolutely loved it. Two years ago, she visited us in Virginia and brought suitcases full of ribbons, garlands, giant snowflakes, and other holiday … [Read more...]

Welcome to the 60s

Well, hello 60. Cue the Hairspray music, "Welcome to the 60's."   Yes, I'm 60 years old. Doug planned a little party for me and announced in the invitation that "Her age has finally caught up to her era." My age now represents my era of hippies, women's lib, The Beatles, peace, flower power, countercultural activities, revolution, and protests against social norms. So for my 60th birthday,  I had a little countercultural, revolutionary experience of my own. Call it an epiphany -- … [Read more...]

In Honor of October

In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month, I am reprinting this blog I wrote in response to a salon.com “open call” on the question, "What can’t you bring yourself to throw away?" While it's a sad reminder of a period of my life I don't want to revisit, it's also a reminder that breast cancer is real, and still affecting far too many people. Let this be a reminder that screenings and early detection saves lives. Early detection definitely saved mine. It sits on the top shelf of my closet, … [Read more...]

10 Lessons about moving

I keep a five-year journal , a charming little gem that allows me to write five-line entries for five years. Every day, it tells me exactly what I was doing the previous year on the same day. My daily entries from last year at this time included : Last visit to our home in Virginia. That house is packed with memories. Not sure I can handle any more tears or goodbyes. Signed our closing papers and hit the road for Utah. I can't believe it. Staying in Missouri. Just outside … [Read more...]

Is it wrong to love a funeral?

One of the advantages of being "home" is being able to attend important events like family weddings and funerals.   We've lived away for so many years that we've missed most of these key family events. While it sounds morbid, I've been reminded of how much I love a funeral.   I'm not talking about the heartbreakingly sad funerals for people who suffer from tragic, untimely deaths, I'm talking about funerals for people who have lived long, full lives and are ready for the next step … [Read more...]