10 Lessons about moving

I keep a five-year journal , a charming little gem that allows me to write five-line entries for five years. Every day, it tells me exactly what I was doing the previous year on the same day. My daily entries from last year at this time included : Last visit to our home in Virginia. That house is packed with memories. Not sure I can handle any more tears or goodbyes. Signed our closing papers and hit the road for Utah. I can't believe it. Staying in Missouri. Just outside … [Read more...]

Welcome Home

Several years ago, I interviewed Jeanne Marie Laskas, a columnist for The Washington Post Magazine, who wrote the weekly column Significant Others. I asked her how she came up with a column topic every week for over 14 years. She said her ideas came from thinking about what moved or touched her that week. I often ask myself the same question when trying to come up with a blog topic. What has caused an emotional reaction in me? The answer to that question came instantly this morning  -- the … [Read more...]

Regrets and Do-Overs

While in Utah visiting my family, my sister and I got into a conversation about regrets. What do I regret? What kinds of things would I do differently if I had a few do-overs? Do I regret filling yards of surgical tubing with water and spraying an apartment full of poker-playing boys in college? No. Do I regret filling up my first semester of college with classes like trampoline, tennis and dance? Or making a spontaneous decision at 9 p.m. at night to load my car with college … [Read more...]

Happy Father’s Day, Dad

I miss my dad. It's been 21 years since I heard his voice, felt his strong hugs, and smelled the Old Spice Aftershave on his cheeks. What I wouldn't give for a conversation with him. Sometimes I imagine him showing up, like when I'm walking on the beach by myself, thinking about him. As I walk past the fishermen on the beach, I remember how my dad struck up conversations with anybody and everybody holding a fishing pole. "Are they biting? What are they taking?" He'd … [Read more...]

Milestones and Proud Mamas

Today my daughter, Sara, graduates from college. This milestone brings to mind so many memories... When I took her to orientation day at preschool to meet her teacher and classmates, she walked away from me to interact with the other children. She kept looking back at me, surely needing reassurance that I was still there. Then she walked up to me and said, "Mom, it's time for you to go home now!" I pointed out that parents had to stay. "Why? I'm fine. Just go home and pick me up later." … [Read more...]