Happy Mother’s Day

It's hard to admit, but I remember a time when I wondered if I wanted to be a mother.   I thought I lacked the natural maternal desire.   It just didn't grab hold of me with the urgency and excitement I thought I should feel.   It didn't help that I grew up in the women's liberation era when motherhood was characterized as the most unsatisfying job on the planet.   Women spoke of motherhood as drudgery, and the common belief was that there was more to … [Read more...]

And then there was the Playboy story

First of all, here's the update on Kelly and his whiskey. Mom felt guilty and called to tell him his moonshine was really vinegar. Oh, the disappointment. "So, why is it that when I tell someone a secret in this family, nobody keeps it a secret? But, you can all keep secrets from me," he said. His daughters pulled up my blogs to show just how many people were in on the secret about his fake Virginia moonshine. "So everybody that reads your blog knows too? Great. What are you … [Read more...]

Letting Go

As a mother of two college students – one of them only two weeks away from graduating –I am continually asking myself, “What would my mom do now?” I want to be the kind of mother she’s been. The area that needs the most improvement lately is trying to be a better listener. Sometimes, I am more of a fixer than a listener. When my daughters call and tell me their concerns and problems, I instantly, naturally want to fix everything. I get worked up in my here’s-what-we-need-to-do … [Read more...]

My Empty Nest

My empty nest. No more back-to-school-nights, field hockey tournaments, spirit packs, and games. No church youth meetings. No sweaty girls lounging on the couch and eating snacks after field hockey practice. No black bits of turf field ground into the carpet. No jerseys, UnderArmour, and uniforms drying all over the house. No team dinners. No Bachelorette! No waiting up on weekends for kids to come home. No Homecoming float to build. No Homecoming banner to carry in the … [Read more...]