Writing My Obit

Okay, don't panic about the headline. I'm not really writing my obituary, and I'm not dying. I am, however,  thinking about my eulogy and what I would want somebody to say about me at my funeral. I know it sounds morbid, but stick with me. A few days ago, I found out about a tragedy in the family of one of my dearest college friends. His brother and  sister-in-law died in a car accident while their 16-year-old daughter was driving. She accidentally went off the edge of the … [Read more...]

How to Motivate Kids

A couple of weeks ago, my neighbor asked me to write a blog about how to motivate kids to get good grades. She asked me how I motivated my kids. I had to think about it for a minute to remember, then I squirmed a little. "Money," I said. I honestly don't know whether our offers of cash motivated them, but we tried it. Our plan was to push them a little harder to get As. So we paid a premium for As, less for Bs and Zippo for grades below a B. I'm afraid our system turned out … [Read more...]

Letting Go

As a mother of two college students – one of them only two weeks away from graduating –I am continually asking myself, “What would my mom do now?” I want to be the kind of mother she’s been. The area that needs the most improvement lately is trying to be a better listener. Sometimes, I am more of a fixer than a listener. When my daughters call and tell me their concerns and problems, I instantly, naturally want to fix everything. I get worked up in my here’s-what-we-need-to-do … [Read more...]