Cancer Graduation Day

It finally came. The day I've been looking forward to for 10 years. I went to see my oncologist yesterday and she said, "Congratulations. You have graduated from oncology." Oncology -- the study and treatment of tumors. The field of medicine that is devoted to cancer. About a month ago I went to the breast surgeon's office and she said, "You don't need to come back anymore unless it gives you peace of mind to keep coming." No thank you, I told her, I will not be back. I am done with … [Read more...]

Does Prayer Work?

I recently read a call for blogs on the topic: “Does prayer work?’ Since it’s October and Breast Cancer Awareness month, I thought about this question as it applied to my breast cancer diagnosis eight years ago. Since that experience, my answer to the question of whether prayer works is, “It depends.” If we believe praying is as easy as placing an Amazon Prime order, we might be disappointed to learn it might not work like that. I learned to pray as soon as I could talk. So, when I … [Read more...]

Advice From Mom

I know I blog about my mom often. Mostly, because she's smart and funny and provides me with good material. But, also, because I love her. A lot. And, I want to remember as much as I can about her. Writing about her helps me do that. While we were at the beach in March getting the house ready for the busy rental season, I asked her what advice she'd like to pass on to her grandchildren. Without hesitation, she said three things: 1. Run. That's right, run. Runners are passionate … [Read more...]

Happy Father’s Day, Dad

I miss my dad. It's been 21 years since I heard his voice, felt his strong hugs, and smelled the Old Spice Aftershave on his cheeks. What I wouldn't give for a conversation with him. Sometimes I imagine him showing up, like when I'm walking on the beach by myself, thinking about him. As I walk past the fishermen on the beach, I remember how my dad struck up conversations with anybody and everybody holding a fishing pole. "Are they biting? What are they taking?" He'd … [Read more...]

Trying to Find Words of Comfort

Last night I heard on the news that a post office box has been set up to receive condolence letters for the families of those killed in the Sandy Hook Elementary shootings. I felt like I should send notes to the grieving parents. But, what could I possibly write? What words of condolence could I share that could uplift these heartbroken, bereaved families? On September 11, when I heard that terrorists had attacked our nation, I immediately drove to the elementary school to pick up my … [Read more...]