Love Illuminated

Daniel Jones, the editor of the New York Times' Modern Love column has read about 50,000 essays on love, and written a book  called Love Illuminated -- Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject about what he's learned. When Jones talked to Katie Couric about the book, she said she thinks if you want to find someone, you need to put out an APB to everyone you know. The hazard in doing that, according to Jones, is that you have to know what you want before you send out that APB or it … [Read more...]

Letting Go

As a mother of two college students – one of them only two weeks away from graduating –I am continually asking myself, “What would my mom do now?” I want to be the kind of mother she’s been. The area that needs the most improvement lately is trying to be a better listener. Sometimes, I am more of a fixer than a listener. When my daughters call and tell me their concerns and problems, I instantly, naturally want to fix everything. I get worked up in my here’s-what-we-need-to-do … [Read more...]

Marital persnickety-ness follow-up

I love the responses I get from all of you on my blog. My last story on "Marital Persnickety-ness" generated several interesting comments. https://lauriesnowturner.com/2012/01/23/1059/ One of my favorites was from my friend Sara, who I've always admired because she and her husband consistently work on strengthening their marriage. She said, "Just wait until your 40th anniversary and you have been empty nesters for years. All those little habits become more and more evident and yet our … [Read more...]

My Empty Nest

My empty nest. No more back-to-school-nights, field hockey tournaments, spirit packs, and games. No church youth meetings. No sweaty girls lounging on the couch and eating snacks after field hockey practice. No black bits of turf field ground into the carpet. No jerseys, UnderArmour, and uniforms drying all over the house. No team dinners. No Bachelorette! No waiting up on weekends for kids to come home. No Homecoming float to build. No Homecoming banner to carry in the … [Read more...]

Just Like Me but Better

While visiting my mom recently, I said, “Mom, remember when you used to say, ‘I hope you have a daughter just like you?’ In case you haven’t figured it out by now, your wish came true.” My 18-year old daughter Annie is so much like me it’s scary. I realized how much Annie is like me as I drove her to a doctor appointment in Utah. I almost drove off the side of University Avenue in Provo while listening to her rattle off her long list of urgent goals. She sounded so much like the … [Read more...]