As we live in the surreal, bewildering world of Covid-19, I repeatedly find myself thinking and feeling like I did after I was diagnosed with cancer over 10 years ago.
The lessons I learned then are helping me now.
Like a pandemic, that diagnosis made me feel helpless, confused, uncertain about the future, and worried about everything I touched, breathed, or came in contact with.
The grocery store became a petri dish, the nail salon, mall, and everywhere else became unsanitary places to avoid.
I had no control over what was happening, and every day it seemed like there was more bad news.
My life suddenly narrowed from being busy, involved, and overly social to being singularly focused on my own survival and the well-being of my family.
How many times did I hear that I had a “new normal?”
How many times did doctors tell me there was no way of predicting what might happen?
I hated the loss of control.
So, as the news has poured out endlessly over the last few weeks, I’ve thought a lot about the lessons I learned from surviving cancer that are helping me through this pandemic.
Here are a few of them. Maybe they’ll help you:
Remember this is temporary. Life will not always be this way. Repeat this often. Let it become your mantra.
You’re not alone — even if it feels that way. Other people feel like you do. They understand the loneliness, isolation, and fear.
You will get through it. No matter what happens, you’ll survive. Even if the very worst happens, everything will eventually be okay.
Plan for the future. Have something to look forward to. Imagine it in great detail, and when you feel the stress mounting, go there in your mind. Think about how it will feel, how you will enjoy it, and what a celebration it will be. I imagined being with my family at the beach, soft hair growing back on my head, the sand between my toes, the sounds of laughter as my girls played in the ocean waves, and the relief on Doug’s face because we made it through. Imagining all the small details propelled me through some hard days.
Have faith. There is a God. He is in charge and if you believe in, trust, and rely on his words, you will feel at peace. God sent us here for a mortal experience and that means bad things will come our way. That’s just part of the plan. Our job is to respond well, learn, and become better through the hard times — choose faith over fear.
Rely on friends and family. I was overwhelmed with the love and kindness of others. It reminded me that even in the worst-case scenarios of life, good, helpful people are everywhere. Watch for them, appreciate them.
Be someone who helps others. We can be those good people. Doug is calling a friend every day which cheers him up and lets someone else know they’re loved. A neighbor just left us a cellophane-wrapped roll of toilet paper with a note that said, “When life gets crazy, roll with it.” Check on people. They will appreciate it and it will make you feel better.
Join in the worldwide fast tomorrow, April 10, on Good Friday, and pray that the virus can be controlled, caregivers will be protected, the economy strengthened, and life normalized. Fast for two meals or 24 hours. You decide how long you want to sacrifice.
- We also have posted this graphic on our refrigerator to remind us of who we want to be during and after Covid-19.
I hope some of these tips are helpful. And, I’d love to know some of your tips.
How are you getting through these upside-down, inside-out days? Please share!