Cancer Graduation Day

It finally came.

The day I’ve been looking forward to for 10 years.

I went to see my oncologist yesterday and she said, “Congratulations. You have graduated from oncology.”

Oncology — the study and treatment of tumors.

The field of medicine that is devoted to cancer.

About a month ago I went to the breast surgeon’s office and she said, “You don’t need to come back anymore unless it gives you peace of mind to keep coming.”

No thank you, I told her, I will not be back.

I am done with cancer.

I am done with the doctors, the drugs, and the anxiety that is caused by every visit to a medical facility.

I wonder if doctors understand the impact of their words when they tell a patient their cancer case is closed.

The sudden rush of emotion surprised me — so many memories flooded my mind.

  • Sitting across the desk from doctors talking to me about treatment options and survival rates.
  • Looking out the window of the doctor’s office at the trees for a brief mental and emotional escape from what I was hearing.
  • Sitting for hours hooked up to a chemo cart with bright red fluids infusing my body.
  • Friends streaming into my home with food, cards, flowers, and endless amounts of love and support.
  • Doug organizing my medications, running to the drug store at all hours of the night, and showing up unexpectedly for doctor appointments and chemo treatments.

“I never have to come back?” I asked her.

“Only if you want to come back or if there is another issue,” she said.

Another  issue…

That worry will always haunt me, but for now, I will celebrate the end of the cancer era.

Ten years is a long time.

One minute everything was normal.

The next minute, I was processing words about invasive ductal cancer.

What have I learned in those 10 years?

I’m not sure I could cover the lessons of 10 years in one blog post, so let me name just a few…

  1. I’m never alone. Even in the dark of the night when pain and anxiety will not subside and sleep will never come, I am not alone. I have God to “hear my soul’s complaint” as the church hymn goes. And, I have friends and family who astound me with their love, support, and kindness.
  2. I am stronger than I think.  I like what Elizabeth Taylor said about doing hard things. “You just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot in front of the other, and you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way.” I would amend her list — you fight, you cry, you curse, you pray your heart out, and then you go about the business of living. It’s that prayer part that gives you the strength to go about the business of living. It might sound silly but from the day I was diagnosed, I promised myself I would never spend one day in my pajamas or in my bed. I would get up every morning, shower, put on my makeup and get dressed for the day. No. Matter. What. For some reason, those small daily routines made me feel stronger. I also decided I would always cover my bald head with a scarf or a wig because, for some reason, I felt less like a victim of cancer when my head was covered.
hair

This was taken when my hair had grown enough for me to lose the wig! What a great day.

As I walked out of the doctor’s office yesterday, I stopped and texted my family to tell them the good news.

“I never expected this day to feel so HUGE,” I wrote.

Then, when I got into my car to come home, I cried.

Unbelievable relief washed over me.

I can never be sure cancer won’t terrorize my life again, but for now, after 10 years, I will celebrate that it’s finally part of my past; and I will move forward with profound respect for the magnitude and depth of the lessons it taught me.

I’ve enjoyed many graduations in my life, but this might be the best one yet.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comments

  1. Krista Rogers says:

    Awesome news! I never knew that you went through this but I can see that you have inspired folks- even after you graduated!!

  2. Caren Cannon says:

    Love this post….

    On Thu, May 19, 2016 at 4:39 PM, Laurie Snow Turner wrote:

    > lauriesturner posted: “It finally came. The day I’ve been looking forward > to for 10 years. I went to see my oncologist yesterday and she said, > “Congratulations. You have graduated from oncology.” Oncology — the study > and treatment of tumors. The field of medicine that is d” >

  3. Mary Ann Yost says:

    Joyful milestone!!! So happy for you Laurie !! Oxox

  4. Cindy Wright says:

    You are amazing! Such a wonderful graduation day!

  5. Marjean Christensen says:

    Many times we don’t realize the challenges others endure. So happy for you that the cancer is gone. I enjoyed reading about your fortitude to face each day dressed & ready for the challenge. This can be applied in so many aspects of our lives. And we indeed learn special lessons as we endure the trials. Thanks for sharing your story and may you continue to be blessed with health & strength!

  6. I pray I never have to face this kind of challenge, but if I do, your wisdom, faith, and courage would help me get through it- just as it has in so many other challenges in my life!

  7. Greg Korologos says:

    Laurie, I just read this, with tears, shivers, anger, & finally with joy.

    You have that invasion out of your body. Gone! Forget it now. It is gone!!

    Xoxo Love, Greg

    _____

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